Wednesday, December 12, 2007

In Praise of Clarity

Results of Ethan's evaluation

"Ethan is experiencing sound differently than other kids. It may affect his ability to concentrate and be regulated. He might make poor choices such as putting his face over and over into another child's face, not because he is trying to be mean, but because he needs different sensory input, or is over-stimulated and having trouble controlling himself.

"I observed Ethan covering his ears and being visibly more active when the room was loud, and more calm when it was quieter. At times of high volume, he flapped his arms up and down, kicked the leg of the table, and appeared more energetic than his peers.

"But in times of quiet, Ethan listen attentively and was engaged in his surroundings and his peers.

"To give an example of this, I witnessed the sweetest thing I have seen in some time from Ethan. He was standing by a child that was crying. He quietly took the child's hand and patted it. The child stopped crying. A few minutes later, he noticed again that the child still had a tear rolling down his face though he was no longer crying. Ethan reached over very tenderly and wiped his tear, telling him, "There now." At circle time, he was asked to come over and sit by the same child who was still having trouble adjusting. He was very tender with him, matter of fact, and offered him wonderful suggestions and ways to be engaged with the activities the rest of the class was enjoying. The child made great gains in the comfort of his friend Ethan.

"What an amazingly kind young boy."

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Sweet vindication.

33 comments:

thecasualperfectionist.com said...

That is great!! If you don't mind me asking, where do you go from here? Still...this sounds like very positive news!

Christina said...

It feels so good when a "professional" tells you in n o uncertain terms, precisely what a fabulous job you are doing with your kids. Kudos!

I have a friend whose child had auditory processing disorder. Your description sounds similar, but it's nothing a strong family and a great and generous kid like him can't handle together. *smile*

belle said...

Fantastic news, Avery, what a star your son is!

Edge said...

That's really good. It's almost like he just needs a reduction in sound. Kind of like earplugs would do it. I don't like loud noises either.

~Jef

Rima said...

What a sweet, cute kid!

And seriously, who *wouldn't* flip out a little bit when the noise volume is deafening?

Sheila said...

Adorable photo! The observations sound like good news to me. He is fully aware of his surroundings and can respond appropriately when the sound levels are lower. Hopefully finding this key piece of the puzzle will go a long way towards helping Ethan!

Amy Turn Sharp said...

I know yr feeling better now girl. How will they assist him? He is a beauty! So happy that you have info now babe and know what you already knew :)

Avery Gray said...

Momma--thanks! We thought so, too. Next, we get him an appointment with an occupational therapist, and see what needs to be done. And I'll be spending lots of time researching sensory input disorders. Better than researching Autism, that's for sure!

Christina--aw! Thanks, sweetie! I have a lot of hope that we'll be able to get through this. Ethan's a fighter.

Belle--thank you!!

Jef--nor do I. I can't concentrate if there's too much noise in the room. I can't imagine it would be any easier for a child.

Rima--amen!

Sheila--we're keeping our fingers crossed! But I'm sure he'll do just fine. He always has.

Amy--oh, tons better! It is such a relief that Autism/Aspergers never came up. This is the first time I feel an evaluator really got a good sense of who Ethan is. And I agree 100% with the findings. Thanks so much for the support!

Mike said...

That's some pretty sweet validation. Nice to hear.

Avery Gray said...

Mike--thank you! It's validation that's been a long time coming. Feels pretty good.

Sugarplum's Mom said...

That is fantastic! I'm so glad to see that you got some positive news and some great feedback about what a kind and gentle soul your little boy is. The photo is adorable.

meleah rebeccah said...

Oh My God...

I am IN LOVE with your son.

missburrows said...

This post brought tears to my eyes! We all just want kids to be happy and healthy and what a relief to be moving toward a solution.

Doozie said...

Yeah, the display of sympathy kind of rules out the autism spectrum disorders. You'll know for sure soon enough when he begins reading and writing. That APD is hard to nail until they get a little older.

He is certainly an adorable little guy! I love that age, enjoy every minute of it. I'm a one kid woman and I'm glad for that because I feel it enables me to better cope with my boys issues in school and have a tighter relationship with him since there are no other kids to have to spread myself around to. He's pretty much the best thing that's ever happened to me even through our rough patches. The school struggles are the biggest bummer. If you ever need insight or just to vent on me, do so anytime because I have some experience in this field.

Heather, Queen of Shake-Shake said...

What an awesome eval!

Showing early signs of empathy/sympathy is something gifted children do do. So is the sound sensitivities. I recommend reading some books/info by Dr. James T. Webb, along with the others you mentioned.

WorksForMom said...

Sweet vindication INDEED. (And uh, I'd flip out with that loud noise too).

M@ said...

Ethan seems to be a good empathic thinker. I wonder what a psychologist would say about the bright lights and that sort of thing....

Jo Beaufoix said...

Avery, I'm so glad they were able to see all that good. Well done Ethan. You must be so proud.

Bec (www.bad-mummy.com) said...

That's so sweet, you should be proud.

I hope you're able to find a great OT.

holly said...

that totally rocks! what a great result!!! what a great boy!

and really, could he be any cuter? i'm sure he's breaking a law or two as is. leave some cuteness for the other kids, avery. jeez.

i have never been so excited for a child i didn't personally know! so i'm going to pretend i do. yay, little friend!

yajeev said...

w00t!

Avery Gray said...

Sugarplum--thank you!

Meleah--Me, too!

Miss Burrows--amen!!

Dooz--thanks! I just may take you up on that offer.

Heather--thanks for the recommendation! I'll definitely look into that. (And I'll respond to your e-mail tomorrow. Don't worry about being too nosey. I'm an open book!)

Workfor--thanks! Me, too!

M@--I don't know, but I'm sure we'll be finding out soon.

Jo and Bec--I am proud! Thank you.

Holly--he says, "Thanks, big friend!"

Yajeev--facebook!

Terri said...

That brought tears to my eyes! What a sweetheart of a son you have.

loveyh said...

Well, DUH! We could have told them that!!

And yet, he seemed to thrive on the noise and chaos today--what's up with that?

The Lazy Iguana said...

I got a card in the mail today. I wonder who it could be from?

Natalie said...

Awww, what a wonderful little boy! You know what? I had extremely sensitive ears as a child, and it had nothing to do with anything but the fact that my ears were healing from the ear infections in my infancy. Heh, that sounds wierd talking about 'my' infancy.

From Here to There

Mishelle (secretagentmama.com) said...

It brought tears to my eyes, too. Wonderful kid means wonderful mom!

suchsimplepleasures said...

yay! and...what a gorgeous little guy, he is!

newnorth said...

That's great! He really does sound like a sweet kid.

Kimberly said...

Congratulations, Avery. So glad the evaluation was done by someone with a brain...and a heart.

Foo said...

“Ethan is experiencing sound differently than other kids.”

That rings a bell. I recently read an article somewhere on the web about some new ADD-type disorders the docs have come up with. It described how there are four types of people, ranging from those who are so sensitive to sound that crinkling papers or clicking pens drive them half crazy. On the other end of the spectrum, the people who are always bruised and scraped from bumping into things without realizing it. Those, you could set off a bomb next to and they wouldn't notice. I wish I could remember where I found the information, because it could go a long way toward explaining why I find many of my coworkers so annoying.

Melinda Zook said...

Wow, sounds like a super sweet boy. He must get it from somewhere, good job!

monkeysandmarbles said...

i agree...what an amazingly kind young boy!